An Australian “sexuality educator” has ignited controversy by suggesting that parents seek their baby’s “consent” before changing diapers. Deanne Carson argues that fostering a “culture of consent” should start from birth, sparking amusement and criticism online—one commenter even joked about needing to “get consent from a cat before cleaning its litter box.”
While babies cannot speak, Carson emphasizes that the goal isn’t a verbal agreement but rather introducing the concept of bodily autonomy and respect. She recommends narrating the action—saying something like, “I’m going to change your diaper now, okay?”—and pausing briefly to observe the infant’s body language or cues.
“Obviously a baby won’t respond, ‘yes Mum, please change my nappy,’” Carson told Australia’s ABC network. “But leaving a moment for eye contact or body language shows the child their response is valued.” Pediatric experts agree that paying attention to non-verbal cues supports healthy communication, and Carson’s approach frames consent as a part of this interaction.
‘Sexuality expert’ says parents should ask for baby’s consent when changing nappies.
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However, the idea has faced intense criticism. Rowan Dean of The Spectator Australia dismissed it as “lefty lunacy,” while psychologist John Rosemond called it “the most bizarre idea of all time,” warning it could confuse families. Social media users mocked the notion, claiming babies naturally express consent through cries or discomfort and comparing the idea to asking pets for permission.
Supporters, however, argue that the concept encourages communication and respect, even if the example is extreme. One user commented, “Even if she’s wrong, what harm is there in showing respect?” Another noted that talking to a baby can help create a nurturing environment focused on consent from an early age.
Ultimately, the debate highlights the broader question of how parents can teach respect and communication. Whether asking a baby for “permission” is practical or symbolic, the key takeaway is clear: attentiveness, responsiveness, and respect for infants’ signals remain essential for healthy bonding.
